December 22, 2009

I'd be a better mother if....

Sometimes I think...

I'd be a better mother if....

Well maybe I should note this first: I honestly was going to talk about if I lived in the moment more...but I just had a friend do that in her post...and so not to do the same thing and because I don't like being the same you know...I thought I would do a little spin on things...on my thoughts...on our day yesterday...


So here we go...




Like I said....I was thinking I would be a better mother if...


I really I enjoyed the moments more and not seeing my completed checklist or 1/2 done checklist you know....

As we left the house yesterday morning...I needed to be somewhere at a certain time...and the girls walked outside to get into the car...actually Hayley ran out there with her new little purse she has all bundled up and right out into the little bit of snow we had...saying, "Ice, Ice,Ice"...Mama!! {It was snow but close enough I thought...I couldn't correct her because it was so darn sweet!!!}

as much as I wanted to stop and let them enjoy the moment...we had to go...so I grabbed my camera and when we got home...I promised them I would let them enjoy the little bit of snow we had in the yard for a bit...


And I did...I l.o.v.e.d every single minute of it!





And then I got to thinking...my girls are telling me they are thirsty...and I forgot to pack a drink...even if it was a shorter time we were gone...I still forgot...




I thought...I'd be a better mother if I would just remember to always pack a drink for them...so they wouldn't have to eat snow and ice when they got home...thank goodness that cat wasn't in our yard or the that the lady just stopped by in her black car in my yard...takes her itty bitty dog pee "in.my.yard!"....should I repeat?


Perhaps so...

"let her itty bitty dog pee in O.U.R. yard!!!" Yep...thought I was going to have a cow that day...and by the way no offense to itty bitty pups...we own one ourselves:)...

Back to my point...


I'd be a better mother if my list of "to-do's" wasn't always so long...and neverending because my late nights take a toll on me...





And then in the blink of an eye yesterday with the girls...I realized I was doing just what I wanted ...in that moment of time...I was enjoying the moment with my lovelies...I stopped and literally could have cried...{I'm a big sap...a great big sap...and a romantic sap on top of that...}....I looked at my girls outside playing in the little amount of snow we had...I laughed with them...heard my youngest point out airplane and say it because her sis loves them so much...and finally I bribed them with chocolate to come inside...

and the rest of the day we baked the day away...and I even had time for making a lunch and dinner...one of the most productive days I've had with the girls...enjoying the moments as they helped roll peanut butter balls, sprinkle and dip the twizzlers, pretzels, and enjoy a treat or two every once in awhile...they probably wondered what in the world has come over their mom with all this candy...but it is alright...because showing them to indulge and enjoy the moments is what I want to do more often with them and actually for myself too...



I saw their faces in delight...and I forgot about everything else {just about}...



The candy and cookies are done except the new recipe I plan to make tomorrow...they are packaged and sent with hubby to work and packaged for our neighbors...and delivered in surprise to their home...surprising them is always what is the best part for me...I love it!



And as Daddy walked in the door last night...I listened to Madison tell him all that she helped make...with a happiness and delight that came across her face to share her treasures with her Daddy...

 It dawned on me that I really did it...I spent an entire day living in the moment...and I loved every bit of it...on top of reaffirming that I am in fact the queen of Wii bowling in our household...{ahem...I'm not bragging or anything...just saying...not to mention "someone" {ahem I wonder who...?} told me they were not taking my advice I was very well willing to share about Wii bowling...:)  okay then...I guess I'll just keep kickin' hiney!)

And today we were off to visit Daddy for lunch...Madison has been dying to see Daddy's office...non-stop asking for about a month or so...so we made her request a reality today...and we drove to have lunch as she wanted it...sandwiches in his office and cookies she made for dessert!

And so I was happy to finally and truly dedicate a day with as hard as it was to no plans and fun...and a tradition of baking carried out to it's fullest!




12 comments:

LuLu said...

What a wonderful day you had... our list's are always long but somedays they need to be just set aside. Your daughters are precious,
wishing you a wonderful Christmas,
xo,
LuLu

Suzann @ The Olive Cottage said...

What a wonderful post.

As the mother of a 19 year old and a 15 (and a half) year old, and a 9 year old - I can with complete certainty tell you that the moments in life that I remember are not my endless to-do lists - I swear I have had a zillion - but what I remember are those times when I said to heck with it all and did "whatever".

Shannon said...

It's so hard sometimes to find time to just live in the moment and I always regret not doing so. Your girls are so cute and it looks like they had a blast in the snow and baking all day with their mommy :)

Lissa said...

sounds like a wonderful day! You're goodies look great!

Kasey said...

just so you know...
i spent and hour and fifteen minutes on the train into the city today...
only to find that there was a 2 hour wait to rent ice skates.
there was NO ice skating today.
nope..
none at all.
there was no living in the moment today.
and tomorrow i'm sending my kids to camp.
yup...
that is how i live in the moment.
Now...sounds like you had a fabulous day...
i will live vicariously thru you;-)
xoxoxoxo

*The Beautiful Life* said...

Hey Martha! :)

White chocolate coated Twizzlers??????????? I LOVE YOU! We must be kindred spirits! Hahaha!! Sugar coated sugar! Why not?!!! :)

You're right -- living in the moment doesn't always just come naturally to us moms. I'm always amazed at how much work goes into looking like we live spontaneously! ;)

Merry Christmas!!

Ruth

the wild raspberry said...

martha...
i'm so glad that you got to have this special day ~~for you and your girls~~
may you have many many more of them!
merry christmas to you~~
chasity

Jeanneoli said...

I love the day you had with your sweet girls!

Mrs. Dunbar said...

We could all do things to be better moms. But it looks like you're doing a pretty good job with all of these adorable pictures and moments captured.

Two years ago my reading read a book and though I can't remember the title one of our challenges was to only put four things on our to-do list for that day. It was so hard, but I really feel like that summer I got the most out of my time with my sons. Just a thought.

Have a very Merry Christmas!!!

tara said...

Martha, your girls are just adorable! What delicious treats you made and with their love I am sure they taste even sweeter! I have enjoyed getting to know you this year and chatting once on the phone, but next time I hope it to be on a more delightful note! Merry Christmas sweet girl! much love, Tara

Tracey said...

Oh sweetie you are a fabulous mom!! And your girls are too precious!!!

Blessings and a joyous Christmas to you and your gorgeous family Martha!!

:) T

Julie said...

i remember you giving out those same treats back in high school! it was the first time i had ever had chocolate covered twizzlers, and i looooved it!